How Do We Say Goodbye???

I hate goodbyes ......

After all these years, I still have a superb difficulty of uttering it to anyone in any form. Goodbyes have this eerie feeling to it as if every time that somebody says it, it might be the last one we will ever hear it. I have this knack of avoiding saying goodbye, I usually disappear and that usually comes with “don’t ask, don’t tell” policy.

How do we say goodbye to the memories that weren’t ours in the first place?

How do we say goodbye to the make believes that we conjured up along the way?

How do we say goodbye to the lies that we choose to tell?

There is no easy way to do this. Somebody told me some years ago, saying goodbye is therapeutic. It helps us to move on. Up till now, I only got half of the meaning, cannot really figure out the rest. I understand that as we become more apologetic for the person we are and the shortcomings that we might have, we also tend to be more apologetic to others. Every time we say goodbye, all that we wish for the other person is good health and good fortune (sounds like CNY greeting, does it?)

Saying goodbye is also about learning to let go. Some people write open letters to one self or to others, seeking answer they think or thought they might find. Getting there is never easy, but in the process we have become ready to tear us apart from the things that we have searching for.
My significant other took a leap of faith by quitting the only job he knows for the last 10 years just to follow me half way around the world. I can sense from the phone call he made on the day he tendered his resignation that he was afraid. He was afraid of saying goodbyes to the things that he is familiar with. It is not easy. But now, the feeling will only multiply few hundred times when he has to leave his friend, his possessions and that small furry thing. I had to endure that a year ago.

But I never say goodbye, I say ‘till we meet again"





XOXO
irda